How to keep a man?

why did it keep. - Let him go. On this one would finish, and if this sensible (and it is robust ), the thought came to mind and not all women questioned. But here is the experience turns out that very few girls think so.

Initially, we are still animals. And the man - a male and a girl - female. And nature has an instinct in us to continue the kind of. As a result, a woman looking for someone who deserves to become the father of her children. A man - fuck. A little exaggerated, but the average true.

However, time brings about changes, and the best male of today - is not only one who has the tail brighter or more muscles. Also need a prosperity. Some important component of career. Some famous and activity. Today the right of the portrait of male each with its. Although some general points can provide.

And a portrait of the modern female ideal, too, not that that primitive. The ability to give birth to healthy children pushed aside - why we have medical. Now they rule almost the same quality as that of men: looks, wealth, career.

These criteria and compels us to choose a couple of us, not for himself but for society. This is, IMHO, the main problem of modern society. We did not choose wisely, and reflexive, building on the general trends in the choice of a pair.

I personally am of the theory of cost minimization. Let's say you want to find that the only. Why expend energy on people, distort their domestic to please him, to then relax for a moment to lose him forever? .

In times of patriarchal despotism drove a couple of parents. And the first couple years, often look at each other could not. Only with time, they were convinced of the rightness of the choice of parents. And in old age already and soul into each other not chayali.

Parents make choices based on a current - already pritershihsya, akin to a shower. T. e. they made the best choice for him ( her) in twenty years. And so often mistaken. Experience -after.

But this restless woman was his soul requires, the same. And do not care what the demand is outstripping supply. He's the one, and I must say, she loves him terribly.

The most frequent response with the (male ) side - ' What can you give this what I get from the other? '. Actually this is the answer to the question topic - for those who know how to think. The most common answers to that of the girls:.
... Duc and the other says the same thing.
' I'll give it to children ' -. and the other can not?.
' I'm going to cherish! . '-. and he needs it?.
... parted legs and go to the hairdresser?.

Actually, the strategies in the retention of two parts: pressing and permissiveness. Keep a tight grip or allowing all.

A lot of men just waiting to them to direct the. They would be happy to come home at exactly 18. 30, to drive nails, digging the garden at the cottage. This is their voluntary fee for a bottle of beer with friends on weekends and clean shirts on weekdays.

Another subtype of men - free birds who do not want anything to bind himself as the obligations and restrictions. And they are waiting to meet every whim of his in exchange for a humble waiting at another time.

The first type is easy to maintain: just have to plant it on a. To penetrate into his life, taking advantage of his laziness, and grab all the redoubts by storm. One day he wakes up, and all - it 's nothing personal. All one way or another passed through her ​​hands. And his mother looks at him with mild reproach - that is to say what the girl next door, and you, the dog did not appreciate. And friends are already used it a number of. In short, it's time to get married. And the key word here ' to control '.

The second type is more complex. More precisely, it is much easier, but what little girl can behave. Giving without demanding in return, very few people can do. But I know a few cases (and more ), when a girl and a guy living separate lives, their company. But they are a strong family than glued ostentatious love. They clearly believe in their relationship. And you know, they do not even change the other - it makes no sense, it allowed the agreement between the partners. But why look to the side when you can get a lot more at home. The keyword here ' not to strain to each other '. Although, of course, and then not without complications.

That's all the secrets. After all, man, like any other person regardless of sex, just looking for the best - that's the nature of. And the search for these never cease. Here you can either (first version ) zagnobit these searches, or ( second option) make it possible to make sure that you're still better.

Nevertheless, despite the apparent simplicity of the solution, people are still looking for (again, this eternal search!) Other ways to keep people at a. They beg Love. Arrange the tantrums and blackmail. Trying to cause jealousy. All of this gives the result, but a temporary. And the authority falls. And where before the words would be enough, and now need a shovel, and a good kick in the head.

A separate question, why keep the bastard. Stupid excuse ' I did love him ' do not feed. Well, how to love a man who beats and humiliates you.

My friend 's wife has publicly scoffed when I asked - why, it is painful. He replied: ' Did you see how she makes fun of me at home? . But I still did not understand it. But understand her patience. His apartment, his money, as the only source of income, the son of 3 years. She was suffering in order to receive what she considered a nest.

Another friend keeps familiar relationship with a married man who fucked her and did not often borrow money and do not take returns. Yes and no prospects - his legal wife recently had a baby and he bought her a car as a gift. The logic there is no. IMHO.

And there are many examples. Man is so constituted that at 20 he does not need user-friendly, he needed what he now wants to. at any cost. In a relationship there is no threshold of conscience. And do not do anything here. And advice all in vain. And after 35 and you get to own what is best bird in the sky.
That is all there. In general, the dull post about what all that's obvious, but nobody does. :).